thoughts about phone sex...

Okay, so one of the things that sucks about having a long distance relationship is that you miss out on the physical connection with the person. I mean, not just sex but also seeing their face, holding their hand, watching their facial expressions. You have imagine all of that. Sometimes you get it right. Sometimes you don't. One of the perks of having a S.O is the sex, the physical expression of the feelings and emotions you share with the other person.

So, what do you do? You compromise. You think of creative ways of feeling connected to the person.

Sidebar: I saw a preview for a movie coming out called Going the Distance that tackles a couple's attempt at doing a long distance relationship. Looks like a cute romantic comedy.

Okay, where was I? Oh yea, you get creative. I think the most common way is phone sex. Well, now with technology one can video chat, skype, all kinds of stuff, but the tried and true method is phone sex. Phone sex is....well great. Great, if you have a vivid imagination. Awkward, if you don't. Its a pretty good substitute for the real thing.

It's nice having to pay attention to Secret's vocal cues. It's nice imagining her doing the things to me that she is describing. It's nice because in my mind she can't do it wrong! Every touch is right where it is supposed to be. Every kiss is the exact mixture of gentle and rough that I desire. Every caress is perfect. In my mind, the lovemaking is flawless.

I wonder though...am I creating a standard that Secret can not upkeep. Is is possible that when we actually make love that I would be disappointed because it's not the same. Is it possible that Secret in person will be competing with Secret in my imagination? That's not possible...is it? Well, the mind is such a powerful organ. Sex is mostly mental. Can the picture in my mind be so powerful and strong that it would actually influence my opinions of actual lovemaking?

No! It can't! Can it?! I don't think so...or do I? I guess only time will tell. This thing really has me wondering and it

Makes. No. Sense.