Last night was one of those nights. You know, one of those nights when the phone rings and caller ID says your boo's name. You get all happy and then...BAM. The conversation takes a turn for the worst. One thing leads to another to another to another and you look up and realize it's 2:00am. Your chest hurts. Your head hurts. You've been crying. You can't sleep. You wonder what happened. You wonder if what she said is true. And you remember that you still have to get up and go to work in about four hours.
So, what the hell happened?
Well, I've wanted a dog for quite sometime (for about the last five years or so). The timing was never right. Then, I had a roommate who didn't want a dog. Now, that it is just me in the house, I figured I could get a dog. One of my oldest friends, let's call him Jim, told me one day that he was going to buy me a dog. Now, Jim and I have been friends for 10+ years. We tried to date in high school and my freshman year in college. It didn't work so we decided that we would just be friends.
I didn't think Jim would actually buy me the dog. One day he called me and was like 'do you like yorkies'? I told him that I did. He said well, you dog was just born. Fast forward six weeks. He brings me the dog. Its a 3 hour drive, one way. He drops the dog off and leaves.
Now, I told Shortcake that my homeboy said he was going to buy me a dog. She didn't say anything. So, when I tell her that I have the dog, the conversation goes downhill. She says that no man will buy a woman he is not screwing (or wants to screw) a dog. She says that I am making him think that he might have a chance with me. Jim knows that I am gay. Jim also knows that I am in a relationship. Shortcake says when has that ever stopped anybody.
This situation brought out a lot of other stuff that has been kinda festering for a while. So, I just don't know. I'm so confused. I mean, I think it's just a dog. She thinks it's his attempt to get at me and my acceptance is a stamp of approval for him to do so. What do you think?
(Babe, since I know you are reading this, please feel free to weigh in or better yet blog your thoughts on the matter.)
Sounds like she's insecure and a firm believer that men and women can't be platonic friends. Believe or not there are men capable of being friends with women without wanting anything sexual in return, and no, they're not gay men, lol.
ReplyDeleteI see no reason why someone can't give you something for nothing, I do it all the time.
ReplyDeleteIf the dog was from someone who had caused trouble in your relationship before then I'd understand. For some reason she's insecure, cause even if he did have intentions shouldn't the fact that you're not interested be enough. It's not like he drove 3 hours and asked to spend the night. It's just a dog.
10 years is a long time to still be trying to get with someone you a) know is gay, and b) know is not into it. So while normally I might agree with Shortcake, I have a feeling this one is just platonic on his end.
ReplyDeleteI have a straight female friend I would totally buy a dog for, and we've been friends for 10+ years as well.
seems like its something more. I have a male friend that I have been friends with for many years and he would buy me a dog or whatever else he thought I would like and would NOT expect anything in return. like "Reads4Pleasure" said, men and women can just be friends and I believe that Shortcake knows this, so there must be something else going on in her head.
ReplyDeleteI am a super jealous person and have embarked on arguments for a variety of reasons. I think there is something more.
ReplyDeleteIf he is a true friend that knows you are gay and knows that you are in a relatonship, then his gesture just might be purely platonic. A nice thing to do for a friend. The jealousy thing bothers me though. Whenever I get jealous in a relationship it is because I am not secure with the person I am with.
ReplyDeleteI see nothing wrong with it. A friend for that long wouldn't have waited 10+ years to make a move. If that's the case he woulda brought the dog soon as the words 'I want..' popped outta your mouth. I don't wanna call her insecure but she is takinq it ohdee. I'm not sayin but I'm sayin doe..*shrug*
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Have you gotten any other indication that he wants something more than a friendship with you? If not, I highly doubt him buying you a dog means anything...
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